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Jan 22, 2026 18 min

What your partner needs to know about ADHD

from Pause Purpose Play Hosted by Michaela Thomas

If you've been diagnosed with ADHD, and your partner wants to know how to better support you - this episode is for you. If ADHD is creating tension, misunderstandings, or repeated arguments in your relationship - this episode is also for you. In this solo episode, Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas shares what she would want a partner to understand if they were sitting together in the therapy room. This episode isn’t about excuses or blame. It’s about understanding how ADHD affects nervous systems, emotions, communication, and relationships — and what actually helps, rather than makes things worse. In this episode, we explore: Why ADHD is not an excuse, but is an explanation Why “trying harder” often leads to more shame and burnout, not change What happens when someone with ADHD is stuck in rumination or emotional collapse Why logic and reassurance don’t land when the nervous system is dysregulated Rejection sensitivity (RSD) and how tone, silence, and facial expressions can be misread How past relational wounds can be triggered in the present The common “parent–child” dynamic that can develop in ADHD relationships How to support your partner without taking over or eroding their agency A free resource for couples If this episode resonated, Michaela has created a free guide called Balance Your Relationship. It’s designed to help couples step out of blame and back into understanding — with compassion for both partners. Download the free guide here: http://thethomasconnection.co.uk/relationshipbalance/

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What your partner needs to know about ADHD

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  1. 1:36 The Misconception of ADHD as an Excuse
  2. 3:07 Effort vs. Strategy: Supporting Your ADHD Partner
  3. 6:42 Dealing with Rumination and Overthinking
  4. 9:37 The Impact of Shame and Rejection Sensitivity
  5. 14:45 Balancing Support and Independence

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