When Anxiety Goes to Bed with You: Why You Can't Relax Enough for Sex ft. Dr. Karianne Bilsky

Anxiety doesn't stay in your head—it follows you into your relationships, your marriage, and yes, your bedroom.In this episode, I sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Karianne Bilsky to talk about the often-overlooked connection between anxiety and intimacy.Together, we unpack how anxiety affects desire, arousal, connection, and your ability to be present during sex. We discuss why "just relax" isn't helpful advice, and what happens when your nervous system is constantly operating on high alert.If you've ever found yourself overthinking during intimacy, feeling touched out, struggling to relax, or wondering why sex feels more stressful than enjoyable, this conversation is for you.You'll learn:• How anxiety affects desire and arousal• Why anxious brains struggle with intimacy• The role your nervous system plays in sexual connection• Practical ways couples can create more safety and connectionThe number one section you don't want to miss? When Dr. Karianne explains why even if you don't have an anxiety diagnosis, you can't switch into sexy mode as a touched-out mom. (She blew even my mind with this one!)Sometimes the problem isn't your marriage—and it isn't your sex life.Sometimes it's anxiety.Disclaimer: Nothing in this episode should be considered medical advice. Please take whatever information you learn from this episode and discuss it with your own doctor.Resources referenced in this episode:Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski(Amazon aff link)Dr. Karianne's First Episode on The Go Have Good Sex PodcastRub Me the Right Way: Massage Episode on The Go Have Good Sex PodcastAngela's PatreonShe Comes First by Ian Kerner(Amazon aff link)To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.