When Better Just Means Whiter

"Sometimes 'better' just means whiter, and we have to be willing to analyse that and challenge it. And when it comes to adult boundaries under your parents' roof: sometimes the only way to truly uphold a boundary is to go and build your own." Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Four of Conversations with Candice! Today Candice leads with a raw, unfiltered monologue on race, class, and education, before diving into an essential dilemma on upholding adult boundaries while living under your parents' roof. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access our exclusive Part Two deep-dive on demolishing a 20-year marriage, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Monologue (When 'Better' Means Whiter): Inspired by Nikole Hannah-Jones' New York Times essay on public vs. selective schooling, Candice reflects on the tension between community and individual parenting, private school trade-offs, and the emotional fallout of navigating predominantly white spaces as Black parents. Dilemma (Parental Boundaries Under One Roof at 38): A 38-year-old Black Caribbean woman has spent 3–4 years trying to establish boundaries with her parents while living in their home, but feels constantly disregarded. Candice explains why the emotional cost of staying is running in the negative and urges her to move out, while Bode steps in with an insightful reality check on immigrant family conditioning and managing expectations. Housekeeping & Community Updates: Missing Montblanc pens, cultivating a safe space in the Substack chat, and why Chapter Three's parental themes require deeper nuance. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACK Join the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com Substack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast 🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELS Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candice Acast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice 📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaite TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite 🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITS Produced by: Undeniable Productions Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@conversationswithcandicepod Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Remain Unrealistic. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.