When Communication Becomes a Power Struggle: Power, Influence, Gaslighting and Coercive Control

In estrangement, power, influence, coercive control, and gaslighting aren’t just words—they’re underlying dynamics shaping every conversation, every accusation, and every attempt to communicate. Sometimes emotionally charged dynamics are fueled by our communication style, sometimes by our adult child's, and sometimes by someone else entirely. Enter the concept of coercive control and the cult-of-one dynamic.In this episode, we begin to explore these dynamics, uncover the difference between power and influence, and learn how to avoid slipping into coercive control or gaslighting, no matter who’s setting the trap. Queue up the episode and let's get started.Past episodes referenced in this conversation:The Continuum of EstrangementWhat is the Difference: Gaslighting vs ReframingNote to Self: 10 Daily Tips to Keep You in the Parent-Partner LaneFriendly Advocate or Flying Monkey? (Extended)Rebuilding Trust: How Estranged Moms Can ReconnectHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.DISCLAIMERThe content of this podcast is based on my professional work as an estrangement coach and my personal estrangement journey. Any examples, characters, or stories referenced are drawn from my own lived experience or represent a composite of multiple real-life situations shared with me over time. PROFESSIONAL STANDARDS: Dr. Janet SteinkampWhen Our Adult Children Walk Away with Dr. Janet Steinkamp explores healthy communication, ethical interaction, safe family relationships, and reciprocal (appropriate) boundaries. The podcast provides education and support for parents navigating family estrangement, communication breakdowns, grief, reconciliation efforts, healthy boundary development and adult family relationship dynamics.Dr. Janet Steinkamp's work emphasizes emotionally healthy communication, adult accountability, ethical and safe relationship practices, mutual respect and appropriate boundaries, voluntary communication and reconnection and safe and appropriate family systems. Listeners gain practical tools to improve communication, understand the dynamics of estrangement, and pursue emotional responsibility, compassion, and integrity.