When Connection Feels Dangerous: How Shame Makes You Disappear

What if the reason you shut down, disappear, or attack yourself… isn’t weakness, but shame? In this clip with Renee Swanson, we uncover how shame hides behind perfectionism, silence, and even grandiosity—and why naming it is the first step to healing.To listen to the full interview check out Renee's channel here:  https://bleav.com/shows/the-covert-narcissism-podcast/episodes/shame-vs-self-the-invisible-wound-behind-narcissistic-traits/If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.  Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open space where we explore psychoanalytic ideas together, answer your questions, and connect theory to real life experiences. Reserve your spot here  Next Meeting: Stay Tuned!  Contact me Directly with observations, questions or comments:  [email protected] You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder  Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.comDr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.