When Helping Hurts

In this episode, Kelsey and Katelyn discuss the dutiful stance, which includes types one, two, and six. They explain that these types seek to get their needs met by serving others and being loyal. They also discuss the struggles and benefits of this stance, such as people-pleasing and overextending. The hosts emphasize the importance of identifying and communicating one's own needs, setting boundaries, and exploring the underlying motivations behind dutiful behavior. They also mention the significance of self-reflection and seeking therapy or coaching to support personal growth. Takeaways The dutiful stance includes types one, two, and six, who seek to get their needs met by serving others and being loyal. Struggles of this stance include people-pleasing, overextending, and a tendency to neglect one's own needs. Tips for this stance include identifying and communicating one's own needs, setting boundaries, exploring underlying motivations, and seeking therapy or coaching for support. The hosts highlight the importance of self-reflection and self-awareness in order to foster personal growth and balance in relationships. To book an Enneagram Coaching session with Kelsey, go to ⁠https://www.enneagramwithkelsey.com⁠. For CA based listeners to book an intro therapy session with Katelyn, go to ⁠https://www.Freeandwellcc.com⁠. For up to date resources from Katelyn, you can follow her instagram at ⁠https://www.Instagram.com/freeandwellcc⁠. For up to date resources from Kelsey, you can follow her instagram at ⁠https://www.instagram.com/enneagramwithkelsey/⁠. Chapters (00:00) Introduction to the dutiful stance (01:36) Characteristics of the dutiful stance (04:27) Type One: The Perfectionist (06:49) Type Two: The Helper (12:13) Type Six: The Loyalist (16:29) Benefits of the dutiful stance (29:23) Tips and takeaways (42:12) Pop culture reference: Vanderpump Rules (43:54) Closing remarks