When His Helping, Isn't Actually Helping

As the partner who betrayed works through their recovery, we often see that they start to increase their efforts to help their partner. They may help out more with the kids, take the trash out without being asked, or bring home dinner when their partner is having a hard day.  The betrayed partner may find themselves rejecting these efforts, which causes both partners to become frustrated, angry, and disconnected. The partner who betrayed starts wondering why these kind gestures aren’t working. On this episode of Choose to Be, we will talk about what to do when helping doesn’t actually help, and we’ll share what you can do instead that will make a difference in your relationship.  Join us for the conversation on questions such as: What’s behind the trying? How can you use curiosity and communication to grow closer together? What is the role of emotion and logic in communication? What is the betrayed partner really looking for? Groups, Classes, and Resources from Choose Recovery Services ⁠Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women⁠⁠⁠ - Support group is for women who have recently gone through betrayal to help them in those beginning stages. ⁠⁠Choose 90 | Gaining Sobriety⁠⁠⁠ - This course provides support, guidance, and resources to individuals who struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors. ⁠⁠Choose 180 Male Support Group⁠⁠⁠⁠ - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction while healing from shame. ⁠⁠⁠Road to Recovery⁠⁠⁠ - Join Luke and Alana for a free monthly couples webinar to navigate the relational aspects that come on the road to recovery. ⁠⁠Choosing to Stay Webinar⁠⁠ - Hali Roderick teaches a free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. ⁠⁠⁠Should I Stay or Should I Go⁠⁠⁠ - Join this FREE group coaching call with Amie for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. ⁠⁠Am I In An Abusive Relationship?⁠⁠⁠ - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship. You can also find Amie on⁠⁠⁠ The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠! Connect with us on Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠Amie Woolsey⁠⁠⁠ - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee ⁠⁠⁠Alana Gordon⁠⁠⁠ - MFTI, CCPS, CSAT Candidate, Betrayal Trauma Coach  ⁠⁠⁠Choose Recovery Services⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Sign up here⁠⁠⁠ to get an email reminder every time a new episode drops!