When Marriage Slowly Erases You

Send us Fan MailThere is a particular kind of loneliness that doesn't get talked about enough. It's not the loneliness of being single. It's the loneliness of being married and still feeling like you're doing all of it alone. In this episode, Lisa of the Pattern Breakers Collective goes deep on the experience of being slowly erased inside a marriage,  through neglect, through the relentless grind of emotional and physical labor, through the gap between what women were promised and what they actually got. She also talks about the cultural shift that is happening right now: women are done. They are raising their standards, using their voices, and walking away from what they've been tolerating for too long, and the reaction from some men is absolutely telling.This episode covers the mental load, career sacrifice, financial dynamics, sexuality, emotional labor, the choice of whether to leave (including faith, culture, kids, and safety), and, most importantly, ten concrete, everyday things women can do right now to start feeling better and finding themselves again, whether they leave today or not.If something in your marriage has been saying "this isn't right" for a long time, this episode is for you.If anything in today's episode brought up something you're still living inside, support is available.National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788 or thehotline.org. Available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Confidential.National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 or RAINN.org. Also 24/7, also confidential.If your internet use may be monitored, use a private browser window or call from a safe phone. Your safety comes first.