When "Not Good Enough" Runs the Show #011

The “not good enough” identity (specifically, my “not good enough daughter” identity) quietly ran my life for a long time by constantly raising an internal bar higher and higher.Even though my mom never demanded sacrifice or guilted me, I pressured myself with rigid ideas of what a “good daughter” would do, which created guilt and resentment.In this episode, I explain how something shifted when I considered believing my mom’s repeated positive words and made a quiet one-week experiment to live as if I were already good enough.I reflect on how culture reinforces “not good enough” stories for caretakers and beyond, and I emphasize that loosening the identity isn’t about a formula or fixing ourselves, it’s about noticing, questioning, and becoming curious about who set the bar.Sign up for my newsletter: https://drkathleenperry.activehosted.com/f/7