When Self-Improvement Becomes Self-Avoidance

After years of focusing on discipline, awareness, and self-improvement, I began to realize that healing wasn't just about changing my behaviors or managing my symptoms. It was about understanding and building a relationship with the parts underneath the patterns.In this episode, I share how somatic work, parts work, and self-attunement helped me move beyond awareness and into a deeper relationship with myself.In this episode, I talk about:• Why self-improvement can sometimes become a form of self-avoidance• The difference between regulating to connect versus regulating to escape• How anxiety, perfectionism, and other symptoms can point to deeper patterns• What "parts" are and how they influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors• Why awareness alone wasn't enough to stop my cycles• The role of attunement, regulation, and embodiment in the healing process• How to begin building a relationship with the parts of yourself rather than fighting against them• Why healing isn't about becoming someone new, but coming home to who you already areIf you've ever felt like you've done all the "right" things—worked on yourself, read the books, built healthy habits, practiced self-care—and yet still find yourself repeating the same patterns, this episode is for you.This conversation is an invitation to look beyond the symptom and get curious about what may be underneath it.If this episode resonated with you, be sure to follow the show so you don't miss future episodes.And if someone came to mind while listening, share this episode with them. You never know who may need this message today.360 VBM Coaching Application:https://us18.list-manage.com/survey?u=6513567742ec6c770c982c2d8&id=f33160dfe0&attribution=falseLinks and Resources:Website → https://vbmethod.com/Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/vilmalizbosqueInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/360selflovepodcastYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@vilmalizbosqueListen on Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/6hngca08NGeuY9gcosbWms?si=xGIR38HmQ4uUp3zHWWyD8gContent note: This episode includes discussion of anxiety, panic attacks, grief, perfectionism, self-criticism, emotional healing, and parts work.