When Support Becomes a Burden: The Hidden Problem with ‘Man Keeping’

In this episode of the Spaghetti Wall Podcast, Jason Wilcox, LCSW, and Dr. Thaen Saelee break down a growing relationship dynamic often called “man keeping”—but the truth is, it goes both ways.At its core, this issue isn’t about gender—it’s about emotional dependency.When does supporting your partner cross the line into carrying them?Why do so many people rely entirely on their partner for emotional stability, connection, or even problem-solving?And how does that slowly erode attraction, balance, and respect in a relationship?We explore:The difference between healthy support vs. unhealthy dependencyWhy emotional burnout leads to resentment (and even loss of attraction) The dangerous belief that your partner is responsible for your emotionsHow loneliness and lack of outside connection fuels relationship strainThe role of boundaries—and why “no” is sometimes the healthiest answerWhen it’s time to seek help outside the relationshipIf you’ve ever felt drained, overwhelmed, or like you’re carrying too much in your relationship—or if you worry you might be leaning too heavily on your partner—this episode will give you clarity and practical direction.