EPISODE · May 4, 2025 · 27 MIN
When the Life You Wanted Feels Heavier Than You Expected
from Beyond Organised · host Mel Schenker
Send us Fan MailHave you ever achieved something wonderful only to feel guilty about it? That strange, uncomfortable feeling that somehow you don't deserve good things?This episode dives into a powerful conversation I had with a dear friend who, after losing significant weight and undergoing skin removal surgery, felt guilt instead of celebration. Her words stunned me: "Good things like this don't happen to people like me." This sentiment opened a profound exploration of why we sometimes reject happiness even when we've worked hard to earn it.Many of us, particularly women, carry mental scripts from our upbringing or past experiences that tell us we're not worthy of success or joy. We become so accustomed to struggle that when good things arrive, we don't know how to process them properly. Even more concerning, we sometimes believe that by claiming our own happiness, we're somehow diminishing others'.I share my personal journey with negative self-talk and how my husband's simple "piggy bank" intervention (a dollar for every negative comment about myself) revealed I was making twenty self-critical remarks daily. The path to change began with simply catching myself, then gradually introducing positive affirmations until my mindset genuinely transformed.Your words hold power over your beliefs and your beliefs shape your reality. Whether you're struggling with parenting overwhelm, relationship challenges, or career roadblocks, changing your self-talk can be the catalyst for profound transformation. This episode offers practical strategies for breaking the cycle of guilt and negative self-perception so you can finally embrace the happiness you deserve.Ready to start speaking life over yourself? Listen now and discover how your light doesn't dim anyone else's, it only helps others see what's possible in their own lives.Support the show🎧 Enjoyed this episode? I'd love to stay connected!💚 Join the She's Organised Hub – Whether you're looking for community, practical support or deeper coaching, there's a place for you. Join our free Standard membership, or explore Premium and VIP for even more support. Let's continue the conversation inside the Hub!📱 Come and say hello on Instagram or Threads – I share practical tips, behind-the-scenes moments and everyday encouragement to help you simplify your life and steward it well. @shes.organisedIf this episode encouraged you, I'd be so grateful if you'd follow the podcast, leave a rating and write a positive review. It helps more women discover the show and allows us to keep spreading this message of intentional living.Remember...Organising is a tool to live the purposeful life beyond it!See you next time!Mel 💚
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Send us Fan Mail Have you ever achieved something wonderful only to feel guilty about it? That strange, uncomfortable feeling that somehow you don't deserve good things? This episode dives into a powerful conversation I had with a dear friend who, after losing significant weight and undergoing skin removal surgery, felt guilt instead of celebration. Her words stunned me: "Good things like this don't happen to people like me." This sentiment opened a profound exploration of why we sometimes r...
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