When the Past Calls, Don’t Answer: Embracing Who You Are Now | YKMS

Episode OverviewEver feel like you become a past version of yourself around certain people or places? In this episode, we explore why we unconsciously shrink to fit old roles, especially with family or longtime friends. Inspired by a powerful listener letter, we talk about shifting identities, letting go of outdated labels, and the courage it takes to fully step into who you are now.Key Discussion PointsA listener’s story about reverting to their old self at homeWhy we fall back into habits around certain peopleThe discomfort of being seen as your “past self”Unconscious roles and outdated labels from childhoodGossip as default behaviour—and why it’s hard to quitHow to update your self-image and reclaim your present identityListener TakeawaysQuestion old self-beliefs—they might not be true anymoreYou’re allowed to grow and change—give yourself that permissionNotice when you're playing outdated roles—and step out of themStand firm in who you are now, even if others don’t see it yetSurround yourself with people who honour your growthJoin the ConversationWhat’s one outdated belief about yourself that you need to rewrite? And if you’re struggling to change, is it because you still believe the old story—or because the people around you do?Send us an email at [email protected] us or leave us a voicemail with your thoughts📢 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who might need a little permission to grow!Resources MentionedGabor Maté’s concept of connection vs. authenticityNote to Self (our upcoming book!) Watch this space…BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first monthIf you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy.BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch.Links:Download Enough - Our Self Worth Reset.Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod  Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePodEmail us at  [email protected] to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie FahySee https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy informationDisclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.