When to Validate Your Kids Feelings (And When Not to)

🔗 Parenting Wisdom Membership — launching May 19th:https://www.efratamira.com/community1🔗 Full interview with Yechiel Harari: https://youtu.be/m92MWmACDBs?si=EykX6fUiYgfI5c7iAs parents, we've moved away from the old model — power, control, shame — and toward something more empathetic. We validate our children's feelings, hold space, and try to make them feel seen. And that shift matters. But many of us have ended up with a lot of empathy and not a lot of direction. We've traded control for acceptance — and somewhere in between, we lost our authority.This video is about finding the middle ground. Parenting with authority not control. Seeing your child fully — and leading them at the same time.Drawing on the foundations of Jewish psychology, as explained by Yechiel Harari in his book Breaking the Boundaries of Personality, I explore a concept that completely changed how I see my role as a parent: the difference between wanted and unwanted emotions. Not good or bad emotions — but emotions that move your child toward connection and growth, and emotions that pull them inward and block who they truly are.This one idea — once you really get it — shifts you from validator to director. And that shift is what spiritual parenting actually looks like in practice.In this episode I walk through two real scenarios — a child losing a board game and sibling jealousy — and show exactly how the therapeutic approach and the Jewish wisdom approach handle each one differently.If you've ever wondered how to respond to your child's emotional outbursts without shaming them or losing your authority — this is the episode for you.