when was the last time that you cried?

One of my standard questions is when was the last time that you cried Hello, I'm Dan Clark and welcome. Why is that important? Because tears actually mean we are very congruent. Congruent means that we are the same inside as we are on the outside, that the emotion that shows up on the inside is showing up on the outside children are congruent emotionally. And when you're crying, you are very congruent. In other words, it's inside and outside at the same time. Now that's not how rage and anger is. Maybe sometimes that could be true about rage and anger. But for the most part, when you're raging, it's not really congruent, you're just dumping a bunch of emotions in the moment right when you're raging. So congruent means that you feel the emotion fully, and you don't prevent it from showing up. Now, here's the fascinating part about congruency and crying. When you are feeling emotion, it doesn't mean that you have to share it. It just means you shouldn't resist it that allows you to be congruent. When you allow yourself to experience the emotion, you'll cry a lot more often. Tears are the most wonderful thing, because they're the beautiful way that your body has helping you express an emotion that you can't verbally share. In other words, it's an overwhelm and overwhelmed like super happy or super sad, you know, are overwhelmed is not really a bad emotion when there's only one of them. Allow yourself to cry more often, and I promise it will make a big difference in how you feel about life. I love you. I'm Dan Clark.