When Working Harder Doesn't Work: Becoming a Truly Fruitful Marriage

from Fierce Marriage · host Ryan and Selena Frederick

Many Christians try to fix their marriage by "working harder" on their behavior, but as we discuss in this episode, that’s like stapling fruit to a dead tree. If you find yourself lacking patience, kindness, or self-control, the problem isn't your effort—it’s your root. We dive deep into the Greek definitions of the Fruit of the Spirit, the "tailpipe" diagnostic for your home, and the reality of what it means to truly be a regenerate believer. This breakdown offers the biblical roadmap to moving from fleshly "rotten fruit" to a life truly indwelled by the Spirit.RESOURCES:Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.comTake the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.comPray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.comTo learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.comThis ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner Good news! You can now find FULL video episodes on our YouTube channel, The Fierce Family. Visit https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkyO4yVeRdODrpsyXLhEr7w to subscribe and watch. We hope to see you there!

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