When You Love Him But Don't Want Him | A Biblical Healing Guide // 48

For the wife who loves her husband but goes quiet when he reaches for her: low desire isn't a spiritual failure—it's a signal. In this episode, Michelle names the real causes: purity culture wounds, hormonal changes, emotional disconnection, and relational hurt. Plus: how Scripture has been weaponized as pressure, and why grace for yourself (and him) is the pathway to genuine desire. ___________ Low desire in marriage is one of the most common and most silently suffered experiences among Christian wives. And because the church doesn't talk about it honestly, women are left alone with the fear that something is spiritually or fundamentally wrong with them. In this episode, Michelle shares her own story — the bad theology she built around sex and the real relational wounds in her marriage that compounded it — and names four key causes of low desire that have nothing to do with spiritual failure. She addresses how Scripture has been misused as pressure in this area, what it actually says, and closes with an invitation toward grace and honest conversation. Scriptures referenced: 1 Corinthians 7:3–5 — Mutual desire, not performance or pressure Ephesians 5:25–28 — Husbands called to sacrificial, patient love Proverbs 5:18–19 — Rejoicing in your spouse Song of Solomon — Mutual, reciprocal, celebrated desire Psalm 34:18 — God close to the brokenhearted Key causes of low desire covered: Purity culture wounds and the theology that sex is something to give, not enjoy Hormonal and physical changes (postpartum, perimenopause, medication) Emotional disconnection from your husband Unhealed relational wounds that built protective walls Key takeaway: Low desire is not a verdict. It is a signal. And signals have sources that can be named, understood, and addressed. 📚 CHOOSE THE TITLE OF THE BOOK! 👉🏻 CONNECT WITH MICHELLE 💰 Save 10% with Budget Besties Simplified Budget System - use code MICHELLE ☕️ Buy Me a Coffee - Love the podcast, consider supporting RIP IT OFF 📖 Naked & Unashamed: A 31-Day Journey - save 10% with code SAVE10 💌 Free Download: 5 Lies Christian Women Believe About Sex & Marriage ⭐ Leave a Review on Apple Podcasts - Help other Christian wives find healing and biblical truth about intimacy. 📲 Instagram: @ripitoffpodcast 📩 Speaking & guest inquiries: [email protected]