When Your Kid Comes Out: What to Say, What to Skip, and What Really Matters

Sarah Kate Ellis has spent more than a decade as President and CEO of GLAAD, the nation's largest LGBTQ media advocacy organization. She's a TIME 100 honoree. She's testified before Congress. She's had two audiences with Pope Francis. She's also a mom of two teenagers. In this conversation, Dr. Sheryl and Sarah Kate get into what parents actually need to know — not the policy, not the politics, but the real stuff. What does it mean when your kid starts watching shows with queer characters? What do you say when they come to you? What do you do when you already said the wrong thing? Sarah Kate's answer to almost all of it: love out loud, and leave room for exploration. Kids are watching everything — your reactions to the neighbor who just came out, the stranger at the store, the character in the movie. They're taking notes. You don't have to have the perfect words. You just have to stay close. Topics covered: Why kids test the waters before they ever come out to you — and what to do in those moments The terminology parents trip on (and what "queer" actually means) What to do when you've already had a bad reaction What trans kids actually need from their parents (Sarah Kate's left-handedness analogy is one of the best things in this episode) Whether to celebrate when your kid comes out — and how to do it right * Looking for more support in the in-between years of parenting? Good Inside Teen gives you practical tools, scripts, and expert guidance for the moments that can feel most overwhelming with tweens and teens. Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: Kt by Knix: Use the code GOODINSIDE for 15% off period underwear Follow Dr. Sheryl on InstagramLearn more about Good Inside Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.