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EPISODE · Dec 4, 2025 · 21 MIN

When Your Wounds Pick Your Partner | Ep 167

from The Asian Dating Podcast · host May Bugenhagen

In this episode, May and her guest dive into how unresolved trauma can quietly shape who we’re attracted to — and why “wound attracts wound.” They explore what it really means to love yourself before loving someone else, how gratitude rewires your patterns, and the power of healthy femininity, self-reflection, and boundaries in attracting emotionally available partners.0:00 Introduction2:05 Childhood trauma3:23 Wound attracts wound4:40 Love yourself to love someone else5:42 How do you know you need to work on it?6:39 Why do we attract wrong men?8:00 Can gratitude help you learn?9:17 Self-reflection and change your beliefs11:49 Healthy femininity12:51 Hip pain = trauma16:00 Grateful for what you have16:47 Having healthy boundaries18:00 Self-care, sexual promiscuity 20:40 Open your heartKerry is a transformational healer and intuitive guide who helps people turn emotional pain into personal power. After navigating childhood trauma, divorce, and deep spiritual awakening, she learned that healing isn’t about avoiding pain but transforming it into purpose. Through her own journey—from darkness to enlightenment—she discovered that relationships mirror what we most need to heal. Today, Kerry teaches others to find wisdom within their wounds and light within their shadows.Get in touch with Kerry at https://kerryblaser.com/AMAZON BEST SELLER Get my book, ‘A Roadmap For Single Asian Women’ here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9L4CT87?... Call May for help: (310) 867-0851Join The Best Asian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/p...Email: [email protected]: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page:   / twoasianmatchmakers  Instagram:   / matchmakermay  Tiktok:   / asianmatchmaker88  LinkedIn:   / mayhui  ABOUT THIS PODCAST: THE ASIAN DATING PODCASTWhat does Matchmaker May Do?You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in their careers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle to find meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screen the women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, they meet the right woman and fall in love.May talks about all things dating and Asian dating. She’s super nosy about people’s love lives and just loves love. May is a Professional Matchmaker and Dating Coach. May is the founder of Two Asian Matchmakers, a boutique matchmaking agency. Since 2009, May has helped successful men who appreciate Asian culture and value meaningful connection find their ideal Asian partner in the United States and Asia.May is a highly respected and active member of the Matchmakers Alliance and Global Love Institute in New York. May’s insights and work have been featured in major media outlets including Cosmopolitan, Los Angeles Magazine, Thrillist, and Huffington Post, establishing her as a go-to expert in love, dating, and human connection.

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