When You’re the One Holding You Back

Finished listening to this episode? Share your feedback with me.In this episode, I’m sharing the truth I had to swallow myself: when we make excuses for our problems, we keep those problems alive. Inspired by a line in Why Did I Get Married? and a recent conversation with friends, I take you through the moments that made me face my own excuses — from my health to my workload to the habits I’d been justifying instead of changing.I talk through how accountability really feels, how overworking myself knocked me out, and why some of the things we’re carrying (from weight to relationships to business struggles) trace back to choices we’ve been avoiding. This episode is your invitation to stop holding on to what’s hurting you and start focusing on what you can control with honesty, grace, and clarity.Grab your drink, take a sip, and let’s chat.TL;DRWe talk about the hard truth that when we make excuses, we keep our problems. I share how accountability showed up in my own health, habits, and hard decisions — and how shifting from excuses to action can change everything. This episode is an invitation to be honest, choose differently, and take back control.TIME STAMPS 00:00 – Opening Thoughts: Tyler Perry, Movie Lessons & Excuses01:00 – Welcome Back & Coffee Chat02:20 – “If We Make Excuses, We Keep the Problem.”03:45 – The Excuse Patterns We Don’t Notice06:00 – My Real Reason for Getting Sick08:20 – Burnout, Boundaries & Overworking Myself10:40 – Weight, Food, Habits & Hard Truths12:50 – Trauma Weight & What My Therapist Told Me14:40 – What We Can Control vs. What We Can’t15:30 – One Small Step Toward Accountability16:40 – Closing Reflections & Clarity MomentCONNECT WITH MEFan PageIGThreads Facebook RESOURCESNote: I do not have any affiliations with, sponsorships or endorsements from any of the resources mentioned. They are listed for your reference.Mental Health ResourcesSuicide and Crisis Lifeline Ph: 988Psychology Today National Institute of Mental Health Sexual Violence ResourcesRAIINPh: 800.656.HOPE (4673)Substance Abuse ResourcesU.S. Department of Health and Human ServicesAlcoholics AnonymousAl-Anon Family GroupsCREDITS Podcast Editor: Payton Cross ProductionsSupport the show