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Sep 12, 2026 40 min

Where did my confidence go?

from The Messy Midlife Toolkit Hosted by Dr Janine van Someren and Vivienne Berryman

How can you have so much life experience, and somehow trust yourself less? In this episode, we’re talking about confidence: where it goes, what or who can knock it, and why feeling less confident in one part of your life doesn’t mean you’ve suddenly become an unconfident person. We look at the difference between confidence and familiarity, why courage often comes before confidence, and why waiting until you feel completely ready can keep you stuck. We also introduce this episode’s addition to the Messy Midlife Toolkit: The Hype File - a place to collect the evidence of what you’ve done, what you’re good at and the things other people have reflected back to you, for those days when your own brain conveniently forgets. And we leave you with one question: If you trusted yourself just 10% more, what would you do? Plus, we talk about Janine’s own wobbles around putting herself out there, including writing her book, The Wellbeing Advantage: 7 Transformative Habits to Thrive in Work and Life. Follow The Messy Midlife Toolkit: Instagram: @themessymidlifetoolkit Find out more about us: Vivienne: https://www.lifecoachingbyvivienne.com Janine: https://thewellbeingadvantage.com Buy Janine's book here: https://shorturl.at/sqGkA

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