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EPISODE · Dec 16, 2025 · 21 MIN

Who Do They Call First? The Hidden Mental Load of Being the “Default Parent”

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In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah unpacks what really happens when something goes wrong with your kids and the school, coach, or doctor has to pick up the phone: who do they call first, and why is it almost always mom? Drawing on new research from the Quarterly Journal of Economics and her own mental load interviews, Leah breaks down how schools and other institutions default to mothers as the family “911 call center,” even when parents explicitly ask them to call dad instead. She explains how this constant correspondence quietly reshapes women’s careers, health, and relationships, and offers practical ways dads, schools, and couples can push back on these norms so the burden is shared more fairly at homeFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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