Who Taught Us We Had to Be Extraordinary? The Truth About Worth, Specialness, and Being Enough

Send us Fan MailOne sentence on social media stopped me in my tracks: “I realized there’s nothing special about me.” The replies were even louder than the post, full of adults agreeing like it was a hard truth instead of a hurt one. So I’m slowing the whole conversation down and asking a better question: who taught us that “special” means famous, superior, gifted, or publicly validated?I redefine specialness in a way that actually heals. To me, special doesn’t mean more important than anyone else. It means your existence matters, your presence changes rooms, and your life is irreplaceable in the web of people you touch. We talk about why you can love someone deeply without needing them to “stand out” to the entire world, and why the same logic applies to you. This mindset shift is powerful for self-worth, confidence, and mental health, especially when social media comparison makes value feel like a scoreboard.Then we go under the surface of “I’m not special” and name the wound beneath it: not feeling seen, valued, or safe to be yourself without performing. I connect that to conditional love, achievement-based praise, and the perfectionism that can follow you into adulthood. If you’re in a spiritual awakening or personal growth season, we also talk about the trap of chasing signs, psychic gifts, or a “chosen” identity, and the deeper lesson that lands when the noise fades: you were enough the whole time.If this message hits home, subscribe, share this with someone who’s been doubting their worth, and leave a review so more people can find Soul Talk and Psychic Advice. What’s one small, real way you’ve mattered that you used to overlook?Support the show