Who Was I Before All This? - Burnt Out Mums Club Weekly Meeting

Feeling like you don't know yourself anymore? This is the place for you? Welcome to this week's meeting of the Burnt Out Mums Club. There's a particular kind of lost that hits when you're standing in a supermarket, with time to yourself for once, and you realise you have absolutely no idea what you actually want.This week Alison and Alexi get into something that doesn't get talked about enough — the slow erosion of knowing yourself. Not the dramatic identity crisis, but the quiet, creeping realisation that you know exactly what your husband likes, what your kids need to feel comforted, how to create moments for everyone else — and when it comes to yourself, you've got nothing.They talk about what happens when you outsource your own joy to other people without meaning to, why motherhood puts you at the bottom of the list so consistently that eventually you stop knowing where to find yourself, and why the answer probably isn't a trolley full of fancy toiletries — even if that used to work perfectly.There's also a deeply relatable conversation about not knowing how to dress anymore, the injustice of men just walking around looking great while we quietly dissolve, and the radical idea of dropping yourself in Daylesford for a weekend with no plan and no one to look after.Plus: colour seasons, orange glasses, noisy jackets, and the day Alexi romanced herself around Fitzroy in the rain and felt genuinely magnetic. We're all chasing that feeling.