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EPISODE · Apr 30, 2026 · 42 MIN

Who Were You Before You Started Performing

from Mirror Mirror On the Mic · host malissamatia

Somewhere along the way, being "easy", "strong", and "low maintenance" became your personality. But it didn't start that way. In this episode of Mirror Mirror on the Mic, we're pulling back the curtain on the version of you that learned how to perform in order to be loved, chosen, and safe...and asking the real question: Who were you before all of that? We talk about: The subtle ways the "soft life" can turn into self-abandonment Attachment theory and how it impacts our relationships to others and ourselves Why avoiding conflict isn't the same as protecting your peace  This isn't about becoming someone new. it's about remembering the person who existed before she learned how to shape-shift to survive. If this episode hit something in you..if you're starting to realize how much of your life has been built around performing instead of actually feeling like yourself... I want you to come a little closer. I'm launching my Hot Girl 21 Day Reset and this is for the woman who is tired of living on autopilot, tired of choosing quick fixes, tired of calling it "fine" when its actually just familiar. We are focusing on: Calming your nervous system Getting honest about what you actually want And helping you feel like yourself again...in your real, everyday life Here is what you do... Go to our instagram: @mirrormirroronthemic and I'm sharing all the details there, and that's where you'll be able to get in first when it opens.

Somewhere along the way, being "easy", "strong", and "low maintenance" became your personality. But it didn't start that way. In this episode of Mirror Mirror on the Mic, we're pulling back the curtain on the version of you that learned how to perform in order to be loved, chosen, and safe...and asking the real question: Who were you before all of that? We talk about: The subtle ways the "soft life" can turn into self-abandonment Attachment theory and how it impacts our relationships to others and ourselves Why avoiding conflict isn't the same as protecting your peace  This isn't about becoming someone new. it's about remembering the person who existed before she learned how to shape-shift to survive. If this episode hit something in you..if you're starting to realize how much of your life has been built around performing instead of actually feeling like yourself... I want you to come a little closer. I'm launching my Hot Girl 21 Day Reset and this is for the woman who is tired of living on autopilot, tired of choosing quick fixes, tired of calling it "fine" when its actually just familiar. We are focusing on: Calming your nervous system Getting honest about what you actually want And helping you feel like yourself again...in your real, everyday life Here is what you do... Go to our instagram: @mirrormirroronthemic and I'm sharing all the details there, and that's where you'll be able to get in first when it opens.

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