Who’s Holding the Phone: You or Your Parts?

Send us Fan MailWhat if the things that hook you on your phone could actually teach you something about yourself?In this solo episode of Queerly Beloved, Wil shares insights from a recent intentional MDMA journey that led him into a deeper exploration of his relationship with technology, emotions, and different “parts” of himself.Through Internal Family Systems (IFS)–inspired parts work, Wil meets Ping Pong, a busy-body, stimulation-seeking part that wants him to experience everything life has to offer while also protecting him from difficult emotions. As well as Shy, a part that fears what might happen if Wil becomes too visible, successful, connected, or happy.As these parts begin to soften, a bigger realization emerges: the algorithms on our phones may be especially good at identifying—and hooking—the vulnerable parts of ourselves.What if the reels that trigger our envy, FOMO, desire, insecurity, outrage, or need for validation aren't just distractions? What if they can also become trailheads—opportunities to get curious about what is happening inside us?In this episode, Wil explores:How parts work can help us relate to ourselves with more curiosity and compassionThe connection between busyness, stimulation, and avoiding difficult emotionsWhy reaching for our phones can sometimes be an emotional protection strategyHow social media algorithms can hook and feed different parts of ourselvesCreating greater sovereignty and intentionality in our relationship with technologyAllowing sadness, anger, and fear to actually move through the bodyThe unexpected freedom that can come from realizing we don't have to fill every momentFour messages Wil has been carrying since the journey:It is safe to be here.It is safe to feel.It is safe to shine.It is safe to connect.This episode also offers a personal prelude to Wil's upcoming conversation with Shannon Algeo, author of The Power in Your Hands, exploring our individual and collective relationship with smartphones and technology.The next time you find yourself compulsively reaching for your phone or getting hooked by something in your feed, consider pausing before judging yourself.What part of you is getting hooked? What is it looking for? What might it be protecting you from? And what does it actually need?A note about this episode: Wil shares personal experiences with psychedelic medicines and altered states of consciousness. This conversation is offered for educational and personal-reflection purposes only and is not medical, psychological, or legal advice, nor is it intended to encourage anyone to engage in illegal activity.Learn more about Wil and his work here- https://www.wil-fullyliving.com/Support the show