Whose Box Is It Anyway? What Pleases The People-Pleaser?

How do you feel about this episode? Text us!Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know that they have more inside them and want it to come out. In this episode, host Helen Norbury discusses the importance of stepping into your purpose. She shares anecdotes of her childhood, academic, and professional experiences. People-pleasing is an exhausting way to live, Helen shares, and for the first 40 years of her life, it was her daily routine. She checked every box of what was expected of her, and though she found them mildly interesting, most of them weren’t fulfilling. Somewhere along her career, she discovered the Japanese concept of ikigai, a sense of purpose or reason for living. “The journey I’m on is looking into the intersection of passion, mission, vocation and profession,” she remarks.Helen talks about being stuck in cycles. The majority of people live paycheck to paycheck and never really get wealthier along the course of their lives. They might have a bit of money in savings and investments, but they’re not actually creating wealth in a way that would drastically impact their quality of life. Coming to this realization was an eye opener for Helen, and made her think differently about the purpose of her career. This was the final step that prompted her to step into her passion and purpose.Now, Helen can say she’s truly fulfilled with what she does every day. “There was always a deep need inside me which went unsatisfied for so long in the corporate world,” she comments. She advises listeners to start small; grab a pen and paper and ask yourself, “If I could start over, what choices would I make? What values would I bring to my working life? And how can I live those values on a daily basis?”Key TakeawaysDon’t live your life for other people - they have theirs, so do your best with yours!The intersection of passion, mission, vocation and profession is a powerful place. Go find it!Be curious about yourself and your wishes, and apply them as much as possible to your daily life. ResourcesHelen Norbury on Instagram | LinkedIn | Facebook | helenannenorbury.co.uk This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit helennorbury.substack.com