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EPISODE · Jul 3, 2026 · 52 MIN

Why 83% of Relationship Money Fights Are About Attachment | Rachel Cruze and Adam Lane Smith

from I Wish You Knew · host Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov

Money is in the top three reasons for divorce in America. But most couples fighting about money are not actually fighting about money. They are fighting about safety, worth, and trust. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Rachel Cruze, financial expert and bestselling author, to break down why money fights are almost never about money, what your attachment style is doing to your finances, and how to finally get on the same page with your partner before the fight becomes a crisis. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why avoidant people hoard money and anxious people overspend and why both come from the same wound  2- Why joint accounts get more hate on social media than any other financial advice and what that reaction actually reveals  3- Why the prenup conversation is not about divorce but about whether you are building a team  4- Why four generations of women were told men cannot be trusted and how that is running marriages today  5- Why money fights are marriage problems in disguise  6- Why the man who earns more and still feels worthless is an attachment problem not a financial one  7- Why working together to pay off debt improves marriages even when nobody taught a marriage class  8- What to do when one partner is a saver and one is a spender and neither can understand the other  9- Why 49 percent of Gen Z women say having children is no longer important and what is underneath that number If money has been a source of fighting, hiding, or distance in your relationship, the problem probably started long before the bank account did. 👉 Avoidant people hoard money. Anxious people overspend. Both patterns come from the same wound, and neither one gets fixed by a budget. To learn more about your attachment style and how it affects how you handle money, join the free Secure Circle to get access to weekly deep-dive videos, monthly masterclasses, and monthly Q&As. Start here: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/free-secure-circle  👉 Earning more but still feeling empty? Hiding money from someone you love? That’s not a finance issue. That’s attachment. Secure Circle Plus helps you change the pattern for good with courses, live sessions, and direct Q&A with Adam’s team. Upgrade here: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/plus-secure-circle  💬  Work with Adam Lane Smith and his Certified Attachment Coaches to repair your attachment style and build healthier, lasting relationships http://links.adamlanesmith.com/priv-coaching    📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/free-quiz  📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup   Connect with me on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro   X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith Rachel Cruze: - Two-time #1 national bestselling author and financial expert. - Host of The Rachel Cruze Show and co-host of Smart Money Happy Hour. - Has served at Ramsey Solutions since 2010, teaching budgeting, debt-free living, and personal finance. - Public speaker since age 15, speaking to audiences of up to 10,000 alongside her father, Dave Ramsey. - Featured on major media outlets including Good Morning America, Today, CNN, Fox & Friends, and Live with Kelly and Ryan. - Believes anyone can take control of their finances, avoid debt, and build a life they love. - Follow Rachel on: YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@TheRachelCruzeShow  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rachelcruze  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelcruze Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rachelramseycruze 

Money is in the top three reasons for divorce in America. But most couples fighting about money are not actually fighting about money. They are fighting about safety, worth, and trust. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Rachel Cruze, financial expert and bestselling author, to break down why money fights are almost never about money, what your attachment style is doing to your finances, and how to finally get on the same page with your partner before the fight becomes a crisis. What you will learn in this video:1- Why avoidant people hoard money and anxious people overspend and why both come from the same wound 2- Why joint accounts get more hate on social media than any other financial advice and what that reaction actually reveals 3- Why the prenup conversation is not about divorce but about whether you are building a team 4- Why four generations of women were told men cannot be trusted and how that is running marriages today 5- Why money fights are marriage problems in disguise 6- Why the man who earns more and still feels worthless is an attachment problem not a financial one 7- Why working together to pay off debt improves marriages even when nobody taught a marriage class 8- What to do when one partner is a saver and one is a spender and neither can understand the other 9- Why 49 percent of Gen Z women say having children is no longer important and what is underneath that number If money has been a source of fighting, hiding, or distance in your relationship, the problem probably started long before the bank account did. 👉 Avoidant people hoard money. Anxious people overspend. Both patterns come from the same wound, and neither one gets fixed by a budget. To learn more about your attachment style and how it affects how you handle money, join the free Secure Circle to get access to weekly deep-dive videos, monthly masterclasses, and monthly Q&As. Start here: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/free-secure-circle  👉 Earning more but still feeling empty? Hiding money from someone you love? That’s not a finance issue. That’s attachment. Secure Circle Plus helps you change the pattern for good with courses, live sessions, and direct Q&A with Adam’s team. Upgrade here: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/plus-secure-circle  💬  Work with Adam Lane Smith and his Certified Attachment Coaches to repair your attachment style and build healthier, lasting relationships http://links.adamlanesmith.com/priv-coaching    📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/free-quiz  📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup   Connect with me on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith Rachel Cruze:- Two-time #1 national bestselling author and financial expert.- Host of The Rachel Cruze Show and co-host of Smart Money Happy Hour.- Has served at Ramsey Solutions since 2010, teaching budgeting, debt-free living, and personal finance.- Public speaker since age 15, speaking to audiences of up to 10,000 alongside her father, Dave Ramsey.- Featured on major media outlets including Good Morning America, Today, CNN, Fox & Friends, and Live with Kelly and Ryan.- Believes anyone can take control of their finances, avoid debt, and build a life they love.- Follow Rachel on:YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@TheRachelCruzeShow Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rachelcruze TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelcruzeFacebook https://www.facebook.com/rachelramseycruze

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