Why Am I Scared of Being Loved Well? | Sabotaging Healthy Relationships

Have you ever started pulling away just when things feel good?Like when someone treats you with gentleness and consistency, but instead of resting in it… you feel uneasy?This episode explores why peace can feel unsafe — especially if you’ve grown up associating love with chaos, anxiety, or unpredictability.We’re talking about nervous system responses, self-sabotage, and why it’s not your fault — but it is your time to heal.In this reflection, you’ll hear:* Why calm love can feel unfamiliar and threatening* How fear convinces us to sabotage safety* The core fear that peace is just the calm before the storm* What the Bible reveals about God’s steady, unshifting love* Simple, gentle ways to begin receiving healthy love — first from God, then from othersYou’ll be reminded that God doesn’t push you away when you’re afraid — He draws you closer. His love becomes the blueprint for the kind of relationships you were made for: ones where you don’t have to earn affection, brace for pain, or test your worth.Affirmation:“I was made for calm, steady love. My heart is safe with God.”Key takeaway:God did not create you with a spirit of fear.For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. - 2 Timothy 1:7* Subscribe to the newsletter to be the first to know what’s coming up, and to receive recaps and resources.Beloved with Cherise Rochelle is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Beloved with Cherise Rochelle at cheriserochelle.substack.com/subscribe