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EPISODE · Mar 4, 2026 · 29 MIN

Why Anger Feels Dangerous After Growing Up with a Covert Narcissistic Parent | Epi 134

from The Narcissism Decoder · host Dr. Anthony Mazzella

In this episode, we turn to what often emerges when confusion finally begins to lift - anger at the covert narcissistic parent! For many people who grew up with a covert narcissistic parent, anger doesn’t feel empowering—it feels dangerous, destabilizing, and quickly followed by guilt and fear of abandonment. From a psychodynamic perspective, we explore -through a few rich examples-why asserting reality can feel so risky, how anger has been quietly disallowed for years, and what happens when it finally begins to come online. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.  Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open space where we explore psychoanalytic ideas together, answer your questions, and connect theory to real life experiences. Reserve your spot here  Next Meeting: Stay Tuned!  Contact me Directly with observations, questions or comments:  [email protected] You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder  Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.comDr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.

In this episode, we turn to what often emerges when confusion finally begins to lift - anger at the covert narcissistic parent! For many people who grew up with a covert narcissistic parent, anger doesn’t feel empowering—it feels dangerous, destabilizing, and quickly followed by guilt and fear of abandonment. From a psychodynamic perspective, we explore -through a few rich examples-why asserting reality can feel so risky, how anger has been quietly disallowed for years, and what happens when...

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