Why Are You Doing That? a reckoning with doing more yet feeling less, and losing sight of the things that are already yours

everyone's doing a lot. especially in university. especially when the system tells you that the degree alone isn't enough to stand out — so you say yes to the committee, the expo, the extracurricular, the thing you're not even sure you want, because everyone gets the same degree and you cannot afford to be the one who did nothing with it.but at some point it stops being ambition and the goal posts begin to move. most of us don't notice until we're completely exhausted, our calendars are full and the things we actually love have stopped making our to do lists.this episode, we’re diving into it.  the comparison that makes even your most genuine work feel performative. the yes you said before you decided you wanted it. the way overcommitment creeps in disguised as drive — and how you only clock it when you look up and don't recognise your own life. it's not a tips and tricks episode. Just a wee conversation about what overcompensating actually feels like from the inside. and leaving you with one question to marinate it.in this episodethe comparison that doesn't feel like envy, comparison that leads to drive"am i actually creating something real, or am i just performing?", how your most genuine purpose can start to feel questionablewhy the system front-loads the pressure and makes every “no” feel like a risk you can't affordenergy as a currency, every yes costs something, and the hobbies – the ones that make you, YOU, always lose out firstchasing success in the small winsDo something with no standard attachedIn this season of Take Your Seat; Between You and Me it's all about knowing who's taking a seat before you take yours. the lioness knows exactly why she's running. chapters00:00 Why Are You Doing That?01:09 picking up where we left off01:37 the comparison that feels like motivation. that's the sneaky kind.05:10 everyone gets the same degree. so you said yes. and yes. and yes.08:32 you didn't realise you were in a loop until you were exhausted11:05 every yes costs something. what are you actually spending it on?19:18 the things you already have that you stopped noticing28:45 see you later !—before your next yes, does it align with you, or are you keeping up?and if you have to think about it for too long, that's probably your answer.love, mariefinah, sienna and ashlyn.