Why "Attachment" Is Actually Detachment (The Hidden Psychology)

Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreThe Attachment That's Really Avoidance — Why Closeness Can Feel Like a ThreatWhy Some People Feel Closest When They're Actually Furthest Away DESCRIPTION:What looks like attachment — staying, showing up, saying the right things — can actually be a form of detachment. Many people in relationships with addiction stay closely tied to the routine and the role, while emotionally checking out from the relationship itself.In this video, Gary unpacks the hidden psychology behind this pattern: why intense involvement in a relationship doesn't always mean genuine emotional connection, and how addiction, trauma, and self-protection can produce something that looks like closeness but functions as distance.Gary trained under Thaddeus Birchard, founder of ATSAC (The Association for the Treatment of Sex Addiction and Compulsivity) — the body that shaped how sex and porn addiction is treated clinically in the UK. He works with both addicts and their partners through separate, specialist pathways, trains and supervises other therapists in this field, and hosts The Sex Addiction Podcast (66K+ downloads, 189 episodes).TAGS:Core/broad:attachment vs detachment, relationship psychology, emotional detachment, addiction and relationships, betrayal traumaSpecific/technical:attachment styles, avoidant attachment, emotional unavailability, detachment in relationships, addiction and emotional distanceIntent-based:why do I feel disconnected in my relationship, signs of emotional detachment, why does closeness feel threatening, attachment vs avoidanceCredibility/framework tie-in:trained by Thaddeus Birchard, ATSAC therapist, sex addiction specialist UK, accredited sex addiction therapistLong-tail:why attachment can look like detachment, hidden psychology of emotional distance, addiction and attachment issuesSupport the show