Why Being Needed Can Feel Safer Than Being Loved

Many people grow up learning that their value comes from being useful.From helping. Fixing. Supporting. Carrying others.In this episode of Learn to Heal, we explore why being needed can sometimes feel safer than being loved, and how this pattern can shape our relationships and sense of self.We talk about the comfort of having a role in relationships, the vulnerability that comes with being truly seen, and how some of us learn to earn love through what we do rather than believing we are worthy of love as we are.This conversation is about recognising that you deserve connection not only because of what you give, but because of who you are.Thank you for listening, we hope you found it useful for your healing journey. See more resources below.Book a group session with Lwanele:https://www.oasis-wellness.co.za/products/in-person-group-therapy-managing-anxiety-4-weeksFind a therapist:https://www.oasis-wellness.co.za/products/individual-therapy-sessionPurchase a copy of guided journal, Fining Clarity: https://www.oasis-wellness.co.za/products/finding-clarity-7-steps-to-managing-anxietyFollow Lwanele on Social MediaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lwanelekhasu_psychologistTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lwanele_psychologistSubscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lwanelekhasuclinicalpsych