Why Being Nice Kills Passion (And What To Do Instead) | Alexandra Stockwell | #136

Dr. Alexandra Stockwell shares her journey from physician to intimacy coach and reveals how couples can create passionately intimate marriages through authenticity rather than compromise. She offers transformative insights on cultivating everyday eroticism, communicating with kindness, and deepening emotional connection to enhance sensual experiences.• Developing "everyday eroticism" by making conscious choices to embody sensuality in daily activities• Distinguishing between "nice" communication that suppresses authenticity and "kind" communication that honors both partners• Understanding how "uncompromising intimacy" creates more passion than traditional compromises• Identifying different types of conversations and framing them clearly for better understanding• Using the question "How old do I feel right now?" to recognize when younger parts of ourselves are driving reactions• Maintaining genuine curiosity about your partner through intentional questions• Focusing on quality rather than quantity for both physical intimacy and date nights• Recognizing that having a fantastic relationship is a learnable skill that anyone can developVisit alexandrastockwell.com to learn about Dr. Stockwell's coaching programs, book "Uncompromising Intimacy," and podcast "The Intimate Marriage Podcast."Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life.Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book StoreWritten by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduceThe opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.orgYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLifeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelifeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.comhttp://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/