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EPISODE · Aug 20, 2026 · 52 MIN

Why Confident Speaking Starts With WHO Is Speaking, Not HOW

from EZ Conversations · host Katja Verderber

What if stage fright isn't a speaking problem — it's an identity problem?  Katja Verderber, former pop singer and TV presenter turned communication expert, joins Furkhan Dandia to reveal why so many people — especially women — were never given permission to shine. From psychodrama role reversals to the animal archetype exercise, Katja's approach goes far beyond presentation skills into the heart of who you are when you speak. This episode is for anyone who has ever shrunk themselves to be liked. Katja Verderber is a transformational communication expert and founder of italk.live. A former award-winning singer and TV presenter in Slovenia (stage name: Katarina Mala — Catherine the Small), she draws on personal experience with self-doubt and losing herself by adjusting, shrinking, and performing to be liked. Her method helps people move from performance to authentic expression, combining psychology, performing arts, leadership coaching, psychodrama, and sociodrama for embodied change. She works with women who were never allowed to shine; men taught that vulnerability equals weakness; and Gen Z learning to take up space with their voice. Core belief: Communication does not start with technique. It starts with the question, “Who is speaking?” After years of therapy and inner work, she now helps others stop performing and speak from truth. She holds psychodrama training (2+ years individual + ongoing group study). She lives in Slovenia with her UK-born partner and their son Lukas. Find Katja: www.italk.live | LinkedIn/Instagram: Katja Verderber Sponsors of the Podcast:AG1: Includes a free welcome kit. https://shop.drinkag1.com/EZCONVERSATIONS. Use BACK2ROUTINE for 20% off your first subscription.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://betterhelp.com/ez10, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠for 10% off your first month of therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aura⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a free two-week trial⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dookio⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://trydokkio.com/ezconversations⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NuCalm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: for a one-week free trial⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Descript ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://get.descript.com/EZ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LeanWorlds⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://get.learnworlds.com/EZCONVERSATIONS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dr. Lewis Nutrition ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://drlewisnutrition.com/ez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WeInspect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.thedusttest.net/M81HLR/3QQG7/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Optery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://%20https://get.optery.com/EZCONVERSATIONS⁠Eleven Labs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://try.elevenlabs.io/EZCONVERSATIONS⁠Jane⁠: https://janesoftware.partnerlinks.io/EZCONVERSATIONSFour Sigmatic: https://us.foursigmatic.com/EZ for 20% off using the code: EZSubscribe to the EZ Reflections Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://ez-reflections-newsletter.beehiiv.com/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered therapy, counselling, or clinical advice. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist–client relationship. The views expressed are my own and are separate from my clinical practice. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Katja shares her personal journey from a Socialist-era Slovenian upbringing where silence was virtue, through performing on TV while losing herself in relationships, to the pivotal moment she stopped adjusting and started setting boundaries. The conversation weaves personal transformation, communication psychology, psychodrama tools, animal archetypes for stage presence, the power of pauses, and a frank discussion about authenticity vs. performance.

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