Why Conflict Can Deepen Love | Dr. Judith Wright on Emotional Intelligence and Relationships | AEM #166

In this episode of An Evolving Man Podcast, I speak with Dr. Judith Wright, relationship expert, author and co-founder of the Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential.Judith has spent more than 40 years helping individuals and couples transform conflict into connection, deepen emotional intelligence and create more meaningful lives.We explore why conflict is not necessarily a sign that a relationship is failing. Instead, when approached consciously, conflict can become a doorway into truth, intimacy, personal responsibility and deeper love.We discuss the seven rules of engagement from The Heart of the Fight, including taking responsibility for our own happiness, refusing to give more than 50% of the blame, telling the truth, fighting for rather than against, and assuming goodwill.We also explore emotional intelligence, dissociation, shadow work, the drama triangle, relationship as a mirror, and how love can help us become more fully ourselves.Dr. Judith Wright: https://livewright.com/contact/Piers Cross: https://www.piers-cross.com/Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Dr. Judith Wright 02:00 Judith’s journey into relationship work 05:10 Working with couples across 20 years 08:05 Personal responsibility in relationships 10:15 The drama triangle: victim, persecutor and rescuer 13:20 Changing the field in relationship 16:15 Letting go of control 18:10 The seven rules of engagement 19:00 Accentuate the positive 21:10 Minimise the negative 23:35 No one gets more than 50% of the blame 25:00 100% responsibility for your own happiness 27:15 Truth, trust and no secrets 31:10 Fight for, not against 34:00 Assuming goodwill 38:30 Why conflict is not failure 42:20 How to begin having healthier arguments 45:30 Expressing likes and dislikes 49:00 Receiving love, praise and gifts 52:15 Relationship as a mirror 55:10 The womb and the crucible 57:50 What to do when a relationship reaches an impasse 59:25 Emotional intelligence in relationships 1:00:45 Final reflections and where to find Judith---Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/