Why Do I Fight With My Partner Before My Period? The Hormone Shift Behind It

This week's Healing Her Story episode answers one of the most searched questions about relationships and the menstrual cycle.Why do I always fight with my partner right before my period?In this solo episode Riva walks through all four phases of the menstrual cycle through the lens of relationships — sharing her own patterns, the research behind them, and why understanding these rhythms changes everything about how we show up with the people we love.She covers:The bleeding time — why this is a relationship with yourself first, and what happens when you skip thatThe follicular phase — why this is the most natural window for deeper connection with other women, new friendships, and more playful energy with your partnerOvulation — why emotional intimacy, heartfelt connection, and the hard conversations you've been avoiding might all belong hereThe premenstrual phase — why the rage is real, why it's often about so much more than the dishes in the sink, and why Riva actually sees this rawness as a giftShe also touches on the role of oxytocin as the female nervous system's primary regulator, why women need to cross-pollinate like we did in village life, and what it means when the premenstrual time brings things to the surface that we've been quietly carrying all cycle.Next time you get into an argument with your partner, check where you are in your cycle.Ready to go deeper with your cycle?Synchronize — Menstrual Cycle Coaching — Riva's four-month somatic menstrual cycle coaching package. A few spots remaining for 2026. The first step is booking your Somatic Assessment and Care Planning Session. Book HereSend us Fan Mail Our intro and outro song, Reclamation (Reborn), is an anthem of remembering.This song was created as a companion for the healing journey, especially for women reclaiming their voices, their rhythms, and their belonging in a world shaped by patriarchy.You’re invited to listen, feel, and let the music meet you wherever you are.Looking for support? Here's how to go deeper:Book a Somatic Assessment: Your 75-min 1:1 virtual session to explore what your body is holding and shape a personalized care plan. Book HereFree Trauma Recovery Mini-Course: A self-guided intro to trauma recovery and nervous system care. Download Here1:1 and Group Support: Virtual and in-person offerings. Learn MoreMeditations on Insight Timer: Guided practices for nervous system regulation. Listen HereWatch Reclamation: A music video and expressive arts project. Watch HereFollow on Instagram: @healingherstorypodcastSubscribe so you never miss an episode. Email [email protected] or DM @healingherstorypodcast on Instagram.