Why Do I Have to Be the Bigger Person

Why Do I Have to be the Bigger Person? Have you ever felt like YOU'RE always the one who has to apologize, forgive, or reach out first — and honestly, you're tired of it?  In this episode of Let's Talk About It, Pastors Ed and LaMeka tackle one of the most common frustrations in the Christian walk: "Why do I always have to be the bigger person?" The answer might surprise you. Because the real question isn't about being the bigger person — it's about what it truly means to follow Jesus. Pulling from Matthew 16:24-27, we break down what Jesus actually said about discipleship: deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Him. And we get real about what that looks like when you don't feel like it, when the other person isn't taking accountability, and when your ego (and your feelings) are screaming at you to do the opposite. In this episode, we cover: ✅ Why "being the bigger person" is really just "acting like Jesus" ✅ The difference between the good thing and the God thing ✅ Why behavior modification alone will drain you — and what heart modification really means ✅ How to shift from "Why do I have to?" to "I GET to" ✅ Why your why behind your actions matters more than the actions themselves ✅ The truth about denying yourself and taking up your cross Key Scripture: Matthew 16:24-27 "If anyone desires to come after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me." — Matthew 16:24 💬 Drop a comment: Where are you in this journey? Still in the "Why do I HAVE to?" stage — or have you made the shift?