Why Do I Keep Ending Up in the Same Relationship Patterns?

A lot of women believe they keep choosing the wrong people. They wonder why every relationship seems to leave them feeling unheard, emotionally alone, or responsible for holding everything together.But what if the repeating pattern isn’t only the person you choose?What if it’s what happens inside you when something feels wrong?In this episode, Carina explores why women can recognise that something has hurt them, then immediately begin questioning their own experience.They ask:“Am I overreacting?”“Is this bad enough?”“Would anyone else be upset by this?”Because sometimes the pattern repeats at the moment you stop trusting what you felt and begin negotiating with your own reality.In this episode, we explore:Why women ask other people for permission to trust their own experienceHow emotional dismissal can slowly erode self-trustWhy you may keep moving the line for what counts as “bad enough”How understanding someone else’s behaviour can become a way of abandoning yourselfWhy questioning your reality may once have helped you preserve connectionWhat becomes possible when you stop cross-examining your own feelingsIf you’ve ever found yourself thinking:“Maybe I’m being too sensitive.”“They didn’t mean it like that.”“Other women have it worse.”“Am I allowed to take this seriously?”This episode is for you.Because you do not need a unanimous verdict before your experience becomes real.If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to continue the conversation through my weekly email.It's not a traditional newsletter.It's a written coaching conversation.One new way of seeing yourself each week, straight into your inbox.→ Join the Conversation—Carina Bull is a trauma-aware facilitator, intuitive mentor, and host of Soul Medicine.Every week, she invites listeners into the conversations she's already having with the women she works with. Conversations about survival, self-abandonment, emotional exhaustion, and what becomes possible when we begin seeing ourselves differently.Her work helps women recognise the survival patterns they've mistaken for who they are, so they can remember who they were before survival taught them who they had to be.Music from UppbeatMountaineer — JuciestLicense code: OEPVET9VNFBLLISZ