Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained

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Why do you love the way that you love? How do you have the best relationships of your life (including the one with yourself)?Today, Mel sits down with expert in attachment theory Thais Gibson to explain the framework to improve any relationship in your life.Her work on the subconscious mind and personal transformation will empower you to set better goals and have happier and healthier relationships. Topics discussed include:How to have secure and healthy relationships (including your relationship with yourself)What your “attachment style” means and the 4 typesHow your subconscious mind drives a lot of what you doWhat love is supposed to look likeHow your attachment style impacts your personal goal-settingThe biggest limiting beliefs from childhood (which one is yours?)How to figure out your attachment styleHow to make your attachment style “secure”The difference between “core wounds” and “core needs”The 2 things you did in childhood that made you a people-pleaserHow to feel less anxious and overwhelmed in relationshipsHow your fear of abandonment shows up in your relationshipsThe one question to ask yourself before you argue with your partnerWhat your new love interest needs if they have a hard time trustingHow to reprogram your subconscious mind for healthier relationshipsYou can purchase Thais’s latest book, Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory, here: https://a.co/d/i2Ae9vG Follow Thais Gibson:Instagram: instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschoolYouTube: youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Watch the podcast episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNrCheck out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow Mel:Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bbThe Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GPLinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QBTikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2vSign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to the episode page here.Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Why do you love the way that you love? How do you have the best relationships of your life (including the one with yourself)? Today, Mel sits down with expert in attachment theory Thais Gibson to explain the framework to improve any relationship in your life. Her work on the subconscious mind and personal transformation will empower you to set better goals and have happier and healthier relationships. Topics discussed include: • How to have secure and healthy relationships (including your relationship with yourself) • What your “attachment style” means and the 4 types • How your subconscious mind drives a lot of what you do • What love is supposed to look like • How your attachment style impacts your personal goal-setting • The biggest limiting beliefs from childhood (which one is yours?) • How to figure out your attachment style • How to make your attachment style “secure” • The difference between “core wounds” and “core needs” • The 2 things you did in childhood that made you a people-pleaser • How to feel less anxious and overwhelmed in relationships • How your fear of abandonment shows up in your relationships • The one question to ask yourself before you argue with your partner • What your new love interest needs if they have a hard time trusting • How to reprogram your subconscious mind for healthier relationships You can purchase Thais’s latest book, Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory, here:https://a.co/d/i2Ae9vG Follow Thais Gibson: Instagram:instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool YouTube:youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Watch the podcast episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow Mel: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to the episode page here. Episode Webpage: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-130 Disclaimer

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