Why Do the Same People Keep Triggering Me? Leadership, Shadow Work and Boundaries

Why do the same people keep triggering us?Why do certain relationships, colleagues, family members or situations seem to provoke the same reaction again and again?In this episode of An Evolving Man Podcast, I explore emotional triggers from the perspective of leadership, Jungian psychology, boarding school trauma, nervous system regulation and personal sovereignty.This is an important subject for anyone in leadership, coaching, relationships, parenting or personal development because the people who trigger us often reveal something important about ourselves.Drawing on Carl Jung’s insight that “when an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside as fate,” I explore how projection works, why we give our power away, and how we can begin to bring that energy back into the body.We explore:• Why the same people keep triggering us • Jung, shadow work and projection • Why triggers are often somatic before they are intellectual • How boarding school and childhood trauma can create hypervigilance • The inner critic and outer critic • Why anger in others may reveal hidden anger in ourselves • How to reclaim projections and take back your energy • Why boundaries are essential for emotional maturity • How to practise saying no without aggression or people-pleasing • EFT, Havening and body-based regulation tools • Why triggers are part of leadership development • How compassionate leadership begins with self-awarenessI also share details of our upcoming free Compassionate Leaders Global workshop:Why Do the Same People Keep Triggering Me? 30th July, 6:30pm to 7:45pm UK time Book here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/1992503357178?aff=oddtdtcreatorI also mention the upcoming Compassionate Leader Pathway, a three-month programme beginning in September for people who want to develop a more emotionally intelligent, heart-centred and compassionate way of leading.Find out more here: https://compassionateleadersglobal.com/the-compassionate-leader-pathway-course/#CompassionateLeadership #EmotionalIntelligence #LeadershipDevelopment #ShadowWork #JungianPsychology #NervousSystemRegulation #Boundaries #AnEvolvingManPodcastTimestamps00:00 Introduction: Why do the same people keep triggering me? 00:43 Why this matters in leadership, family and relationships 01:35 We are all leaders in some form 02:20 Carl Jung, projection and unconscious patterns 03:33 What triggers reveal about our shadow 04:40 Anger, the inner critic and self-attack 05:45 Reclaiming projections and taking your power back 06:55 Hypervigilance, the outer critic and childhood survival 08:05 Havening, EFT and calming the nervous system 09:00 Boundaries and why the same people keep crossing them 10:05 Practising yes, no and embodied sovereignty 11:05 Feeling triggers in the body 11:55 Upcoming free workshop on emotional triggers 12:35 The Compassionate Leader Pathway 13:05 Final reflections and invitation to comment---Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/