Why Do We Fight So Much? (with Randy Scott Slavin)

I interviewed my husband about our relationship. Am I insane? Probably. But we’ve been married twelve years, and I had questions. This episode is for anyone who’s ever loved someone and thought, Why is this still so hard?   Marriage is usually discussed in terms of compatibility, communication, and compromise. But we rarely talk about what happens when two people who love each other realize they have no idea what they’re actually building together.   In this episode of Music Is Therapy, DJ Hesta Prynn does something unprecedented: she interviews her own husband, filmmaker Randy Scott Slavin, for raw couples therapy on tape.   What starts as a sweet story about how they met through music turns into something deeper — and more uncomfortable. They fight all the time. She doesn’t know why. And when she finally asks the hard questions — Why do we fight so much? What are we building? Do you still want to choose this? — the answers crack something open.   This conversation is messy, vulnerable, and uncomfortably real. It’s a reminder that loving someone and knowing how to build a life with them are two different things — and that sometimes you have to admit you forgot to dream together.   If you’ve ever had a fight in the car on the way to a rave, this episode is for you. In this episode, we dive into: The Magic Man Shift: How one song helps Hesta choose consciousness over autopilot in her marriage How They Met Through Music: A breakup song, 13,000 stop-motion photos, and “Pictures of You” as their wedding song Why They Fight: The tension between artistic life (Fred again.. weekends) and regular life (Monday responsibilities) The Big Reveal: Two people married for 12 years realizing they have no shared vision for their relationship When the Therapist Is Lost Too: What happens when the expert doesn’t have the answers at home Want vs. Need: Why looking for someone to fill the hole destroys love The Hard Question: Asking “do you even love me?” — and sitting with the answer What They Each Need: Space to create vs. presence when spiraling The Commitment: Learning how to dream together when you forgot how Monthly Playlist The February Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/07iyBQcQJtSw3PXw7i6S7t?si=f460e6034e6f4769 Featured Song: “Magic Man” – Heart The song that shifts Hesta’s state and brings her back to why she chose him. Connect with Randy Randy’s Website: https://www.randyscottslavin.com  NYC Drone Film Festival: https://www.instagram.com/nycdroneff  Can We Go Wrong Music Video: https://youtu.be/XreeB1Ljeew?si=929Ou8XZu7WNgz8v Connect with Hesta Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hestaprynnmusic  Substack: https://hestaprynn.substack.com/  Music Connection Therapy Course: https://mct.hestaprynn.com/   Have a question you want DJ Hesta Prynn to answer? [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.