Why Does Everything Fall on Her? | Marriage & Mental Load

A listener writes to us about something many women silently struggle with: carrying the mental load of the family.After five years of marriage, a young child, work responsibilities, household management and family commitments, she feels exhausted, overwhelmed and unsupported. Despite repeatedly trying to discuss it with her husband, the conversations often end in frustration rather than solutions.In this episode, Bal and Taj explore the realities of mental load, burnout and cultural expectations within South Asian families. They discuss why many women feel responsible for everything, how these expectations develop, and what practical steps families can take to create a healthier balance.The conversation also looks at the husband's perspective, the importance of communication, teaching children responsibility, making time for yourself, and protecting relationships from resentment.If you've ever felt like you're carrying everyone else's responsibilities while neglecting your own wellbeing, this episode is for you.Have a question or dilemma you'd like us to discuss? Get in touch and you could be featured anonymously in a future episode.