Why Good Men Become Angry Men

Anger isn't always the problem. Sometimes it's the armor. For years, I thought I was simply an angry man. I had a temper, I was confrontational, and small things could send me from zero to one hundred. But as I've gotten older and continued working on myself, I've realized that underneath anger there can be fear, hurt, resentment, exhaustion, insecurity, overwhelm and the feeling that you're losing control of your own life. In this Battle Ready Solo episode, I get honest about anger in my own life—including how resentment and poor communication affected my previous marriage, why being pulled in too many directions can make small problems feel enormous, and why the people around you can either help put the fire out or show up carrying gasoline. I also break down the Battle Ready Anger Check, five questions designed to help you recognize what's happening before anger starts making your decisions for you. The goal isn't to become a man who never gets angry. The goal is to become a man whose anger doesn't get to make his decisions for him.