Why Hiding Feels Safer Than Being Seen | Alana Robinson | EP#8

She kept her curls tied back for years. Not straightened, just tucked away, in a place that didn't ask her to take up space.Alana Robinson is a life coach trained through the Hendricks Institute. She spent years reading a room before she said a word in it, matching the temperature so she could stay safe inside it.On this episode of the Memoirs to Millions Podcast, Asher reads Alana a list of prompts about hiding, alignment, and being seen. Each one opens with what it looks like to speak your truth, and each one flips to what it costs when you don't.They talk about the years she spent shape-shifting to keep the peace, and the body signals she learned to finally trust: a tight throat, a stomach drop, legs that won't sit still. They sit with the year she left Vail for Los Angeles, and the weight that still meets her the moment she drives back in.And they keep circling back to one idea: hiding feels safer, until it isn't.If you have kept part of yourself tied back to stay safe, this one is for you.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ CHAPTERS00:00 Wildflowers, and the mask before the mic turns on 02:00 Five people who shaped her, minus family 07:00 The mind lives in fantasy, the body lives in reality 10:30 The chameleon years in Vail 13:00 A child's identity, questioned by strangers 16:30 The proposal, and the cost of staying quiet 19:00 Withhold, withdraw, project 21:00 Where the body keeps its warning signs 25:00 Legs, shoulders, and learning your own signals 33:00 Years of getting sick, and what the body was trying to say 36:00 Natural hair, and the fear of standing out 39:00 Who Alana is now 46:00 The condo, the safe route, and the regret that started forming 56:00 Choosing LA against advice from nearly everyone around her 1:00:00 The heaviness of driving back into Vail 1:10:00 Turning the boulder into a pebble 1:13:00 Closing rapid fire: books, tools, community━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ CONNECT WITH ALANA ROBINSONWebsite: https://www.mydearlittleself.com Newsletter: https://www.mydearlittleself.com/subscribe Instagram (personal): https://www.instagram.com/alanakay1 Instagram (My Dear Little Self): https://www.instagram.com/to.mydearlittleself Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alana.robinson.507 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alana-robinson━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ IDEAS & REFERENCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Alchemist — Paulo Coelho — https://amzn.to/3SQNYNy The Big Leap — Gay Hendricks — https://amzn.to/4wv7zkY The Eight Secrets of Conscious Luck — Gay Hendricks and Katie Hendricks — https://amzn.to/4vPm5UL Hendricks Institute — coach training and certification The withhold, withdraw, project cycle "The mind can live in fantasy. The body lives in reality." The Cycle Effect — a nonprofit supporting girls in mountain biking, Vail, Colorado "Wildflowers" by Scott Buckley — the music featured in this episode━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ CONNECT WITH ASHER WRIGHTMemoirs to Millions: https://memoirstomillions.com Life Changing Wisdom Marketplace: https://lifechangingwisdom.com Weekly Intel Newsletter: https://m2mweeklyintel.com 100 Books That Changed How I Think: https://asheralbertwright.com/1000bookchallenge Free Memoir Strategy Call: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/memoirs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/asheralbertwright LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/asher-wright-310731227 Facebook: https://facebook.com/lcwforu━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ABOUT MEMOIRS TO MILLIONSAsher Wright is a 22-year US Army veteran, Jamaican immigrant, and 7x published author. He helps veterans, immigrants, and entrepreneurs turn their life stories into published books that build authority and income. New conversations every Saturday.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ MUSIC CREDITMusic: "Wildflowers" by Scott Buckley | www.scottbuckley.com.au | CC-BY 4.0