Why It’s Never A Good Idea To Chase A Man With Ham

In this episode, I tell a very real story about a date that sent me spiralling: lonely, anxious, overthinking everything, and somehow ended with me chasing a man down the street holding a packet of ham. (Yes, really.) What starts as a funny moment opens into something much deeper: the ache beneath dating anxiety, the quiet panic of feeling unchosen, and the old relational wiring that gets activated when connection starts to matter. I share what was actually happening in my body, how childhood dynamics were playing out in real time, and why these moments aren’t evidence that you’re “too much” or doing dating wrong, they’re signals. This conversation is about relational anxiety, responsibility without self-blame, and the moment we stop trying to perform our way into love and start listening to what our bodies are protecting us from. If you’ve ever wondered why dating can make you feel a bit unhinged, why loneliness hits hardest when you’re trying not to need anyone, or why you keep repeating the same patterns even though you “know better”, this one’s for you. Not a how-to. Not a fix. Just an honest invitation to meet yourself with more truth, humour, and compassion, and maybe stop chasing men with processed meat along the way.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeveJanuary Event