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EPISODE · Feb 10, 2026 · 27 MIN

Why Love Breaks Down (Even When You’re Trying)

from The Paula Faris Show · host That Sounds Fun Network

You can be doing all the “right” things—and still missing each other. In part two of our month-long series on The Five Love Languages, we dive into Dr. Chapman’s newest book, The Love Language That Matters Most—what he calls the masterclass on love languages, to explore why good intentions miss the mark.  We dig into the gap between intention and impact—and why so many relationships feel stuck despite trying harder Also, John and I take the premium assessment, and our results genuinely shock us—we did not see them coming.  And coming up next: sex, physical touch, and why it’s not a sixth love language (that conversation might surprise you). Life Happens. Let’s talk about it. Listen in to learn more: [0:09:43] Love vs. Manipulation: Speaking the Language for the Right Reason [0:05:18] Lopsided Love Tanks: When One Partner Feels Empty and the Other’s Full [0:13:07] Dialects Matter: Missing the Mark Inside the Right Love Language [0:16:44] The Third Ear: Listening for Emotions, Not Just Words [0:20:09] Attitude Over Feeling: Choosing Unconditional Love Daily In this episode, we are digging into ways we fall short in speaking the love language of our partner, the importance of having an attitude of love, what love is and what it is not, speaking our partner’s love language for the right reasons, two kinds of people who are fluent in all five love languages, staying curious and listening to understand, and the most important question you can ask your partner. Get my personal newsletter and win a copy of Dr Chapman’s new book Take the Love Languages Quiz Take the Premium Assessment Get his new book: The Love Language That Matters Most  Connect with Paula on Instagram  THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can be doing all the “right” things—and still missing each other. In part two of our month-long series on The Five Love Languages, we dive into Dr. Chapman’s newest book, The Love Language That Matters Most—what he calls the masterclass on love languages, to explore why good intentions miss the mark.  We dig into the gap between intention and impact—and why so many relationships feel stuck despite trying harder Also, John and I take the premium assessment, and our results genuinely shock us—we did not see them coming.  And coming up next: sex, physical touch, and why it’s not a sixth love language (that conversation might surprise you). Life Happens. Let’s talk about it. Listen in to learn more: [0:09:43] Love vs. Manipulation: Speaking the Language for the Right Reason [0:05:18] Lopsided Love Tanks: When One Partner Feels Empty and the Other’s Full [0:13:07] Dialects Matter: Missing the Mark Inside the Right Love Language [0:16:44] The Third Ear: Listening for Emotions, Not Just Words [0:20:09] Attitude Over Feeling: Choosing Unconditional Love Daily In this episode, we are digging into ways we fall short in speaking the love language of our partner, the importance of having an attitude of love, what love is and what it is not, speaking our partner’s love language for the right reasons, two kinds of people who are fluent in all five love languages, staying curious and listening to understand, and the most important question you can ask your partner. Get my personal newsletter and win a copy of Dr Chapman’s new book Take the Love Languages Quiz Take the Premium Assessment Get his new book: The Love Language That Matters Most  Connect with Paula on Instagram  THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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