Why Men Are Leaving the Church—and What Our Worship Is Teaching Them

Why are men leaving the church—and what does worship have to do with it? For decades, churches have watched men quietly disengage from congregational life. Not because faith demands too much—but because, in many cases, worship demands too little. In this episode of Everyday Reformation, we tackle a hard but necessary question: What kind of men does our worship form? From concert-style evangelical services to emotionally driven, consumer-oriented music, much of modern worship trains men to be spectators rather than participants. But worship is never neutral. What the church sings shapes what men love, what they fear, and what they’re willing to sacrifice for. Joined by Pastor Brandon Scroggins and music leader Matt, we explore how recovering psalm-singing, robust hymns, and historically grounded worship is forming strong, dependable men—and reshaping the culture of the local church. This conversation moves from diagnosis to prescription, contrasting: Concert Christianity vs. congregational worship Effeminate sentimentality vs. ordered strength King Alfred’s War Song and Psalm 23—warfare and shepherding held together This episode isn’t about musical preference. It’s about formation, faithfulness, and passing down a treasury of truth to the next generation.