Why More Frequent Sex Isn't the Fix You Need

Feeling stuck in your sex life or wondering how to reignite intimacy with your partner? Take the free quiz at TheBetterBedroom.com to find out what's really going on.Why More Frequent Sex Isn't the Fix You NeedMost couples who feel stuck in their sex life assume the answer is just having sex more often. Couples therapist Zach Brittle (host of Marriage Therapy Radio) joins host and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon to explain why chasing frequency backfires, and why sex is actually a skill you build, not something you either have or don't. They dig into what people get wrong when they try to "work harder" at sex, why outcome-focused sex (orgasm, erection, intercourse) narrows what counts as intimacy, and how one couple in Zach's practice eliminated the guesswork around initiation entirely with a simple negotiated system.Topics covered:Why "more sex" is the wrong goal for a low sex lifeReframing sex as a skill instead of a talent you either have or don'tWhat "what's it for?" and "what counts?" reveal about your sex lifeWhy rejection in the bedroom is rarely about attractionA real couple's negotiated system for ending initiation anxietyTreating sex like a hobby instead of a performanceMore from Zach Brittle:Marriage Therapy Radio — https://marriagetherapyradio.com/More from Heather:AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, host of Sex For Couples. Want personalized support for your relationship? Book a coaching consultation at https://HeatherShannon.co. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp