Why Most Couples Fail at Communication (And How to Win)

Send us Fan MailIt’s time to talk and join the conversation with Episode 3: “C”- Communication. Overcoming communication challenges in love relationships is possible! It took us 30 years to hold effective conversations, and we’re still working on it!In this Love Letter episode, we explore ways you can develop your unique “Rules of Engagement” plan for effective communication between you and your loved ones. Could communication gaps and barriers in your relationship be the culprits of strife and discontentment? Or are you being slightly vulnerable and avoiding opening up with others? Tune in to discover the answers and more right now!Chapters: 0:00 - Welcome to Love Letters with Jason & Ros1:14 - Our Story: “The 30-Year Communication Gap!”4:42 - Navigating— Factors Having the Greatest Impact on How We Communicate8:55 - Top 7 Challenges in Communication21:00 - Overcoming Communication Challenges22:08 - Establish Your “Rules of Engagement,”  Have Pillow Talk29:00 - Bible Truths30:05 - Communication Power Takeaways37:05 - Love Letter Challenge & Closing PrayerAdditional Content & Notes: Communication "Rules of Engagement"Establish a list based on your unique relationship, decide and agree on conversation styles, and determine how you’ll entreat one another in conversation. Our 12 Rules Include:Stay truthful and transparent.Maintain eye contact.Apply active and respectful listening- listen twice as much as speaking.Incorporate “Having the floor” for an equal period of time.Make your “why stance” or points clear during disagreements.Focus on gaining understanding, growing closer, and reaching a resolution.Know and strive to understand your partner’s communication style and journey without judgement.Drop pride and righteous attitudes, gaining should be the by-product of communication, not WINNING or LOSING.Incorporate breaks when conversations become heated; agree to “pin” them for a short period and return to them later.Set agreeable times to hold hard conversations, and be willing to talk things through.Create a “safe space” for communication with gentle answers and engaged body language to avoid dominance in the conversation.Be willing to compromise when disagreeing- let God’s word be the final authority.Top 7 Communication Challenges:Sometimes we don’t know what will and will not hurt.We use communication, or lack thereof, as a weaponPut up barriers and avoid having “real talk” or “hard conversations.”Turns into a “battle of wills” and you want to be “right” or “win” in the conversationTraumaShutting down and internalizing issues/concerns to deal with issues alone.The “Unholy Trinity” of Communication: Fear, Guilt, Pride/EgoBile Truths:James 1: 19 - “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,”Proverbs 15: 1 - “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”Live Out Your Love Letter Challenge:Share something with your spouse or loved one that you’ve never shared before. Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/loveletterswithjasonandrosLive out your Love Letter. 💌Everything in one place: JasonAndRos.comLive out your Love Letter. 💌